Sunday, March 2, 2008

The Chosen Mother

We got this off of Tyler's can find him under the "Our Friends" link. He was born with a hypoplastic left heart and has already gone through the norwood procedure and awaiting the glenn surgery at the end of April. He is an awesome little can read about him at

The Chosen Mothers
Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice and planning, a few by social pressures, and a couple by habit. Did you ever wonder how mothers of children with a life threatening illness are chosen? Somehow, I visualize God hovering over earth selecting His instruments for propagation with great care and deliberation. As He observes, He instructs His angels to make notes in a giant ledger...
"Beth Armstrong, son, Patron Saint Matthew"
"Marjorie Forrest, daughter, Patron Saint Cecilia"
"Carrie Rutledge, twins, Patron Saint Gerard."
Finally, He passes a name to an angel and says, "Give her a child with cancer. "The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy." "Exactly," smiles God, "Could I give a child with cancer a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel." "But, does she have patience?" asks the angel. "I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she will handle it. I watched her today," said God. "She has that feeling of self-independence that is so rare and necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give her has it's own world. She will have to make it live in her world and that's not going to be easy." "But Lord, I don't think she believes in you," said the angel."No worries, I can fix that. This mother is the perfect choice. She has just enough selfishness." The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?" God nods. "If she can't separate herself from this child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, here is the woman I will bless with a child less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take anything her child does for granted. She will never consider a single step just ordinary. I will permit her to see clearly the things I see... ignorance, cruelty, prejudice... and allow her to rise above them." "And what about her patron saint," asks the angel with his pen poised in mid-air. God smiles and says..."A mirror will suffice." -
Erma Bombeck


Anonymous said...

Oh Amy! I love the poem! It definitely reminds me of you! I'm so sorry you have to go through all this, watching Ava be in pain and your boys not being there with you! It brings tears to my eyes thinking of all you've been through! Ava will be better soon, she just needs a little time and when she's ready she'll do it! I feel so bad i haven't made it down there! This week I've been fighting a sinus infection so I haven't been up for doing much. I'll call you soon and plan a day to come see you and Ava! I miss you guys! I'm always thinking of you and telling everyone to pray for you! Love you!
Jen & Adam

Anonymous said...

Hey Amy,
First of all I want you to know that the poem you posted was absolutley amazing once again... and that you ARE SUCH AN AMZING mother you are so very patient, loving, and you show strength and courage like no other! I cannot imagine watching your little sweet baby in pain and not being able to help.. I wish I could tell the doctors to put themselves in these babies shoes! And as for Kaden and choosing between I am sure that is a hard juggle-Just hopefully sooner htan later you can all be home as a family! My plan has been to come up soon and I think it was like three weeks ago I planned to and now it is already three weeks later and I have no idea where the time has went I swear they have put the world in fast forward only if they could put Ava's recovery and pain relief in fast forward! Hope to see you soon, think of you all often, and miss you dearly.. Many prayers are with you and your family! All our love Whitney, Koltan, Treytan!

Anonymous said...

I love the poem. I got onto the Breuer family blog the other day and read about their precious little boy. He is addorable. I left them a message and pray for their little one everyday along with Ava and Isabella. Bless you all and stay strong. Hope to see you in about two weeks, should be coming to KC then. If you need something or someone to visit with or vent to before that let me know.
Miss you all. We are all praying for you. Give Ava and hug and kiss for us and hugs to you also.
Love alway,
Pamela and Megan

Gabi's Mommy said...

You already know I stole your poem and of course I love it!

Poor Ava, that is one thing I never understood with Gabi's care. They are so delicate and fragile that pushing them before they are truly ready could make thigns worse and tht is the last thing we want for our children. Be strong and very opinionated during these times. You and Nate have been through so much and you deserve the time and patience of these doctors. Don't get me wrong, they do many wonderful things for our babies, but sometimes I think they are a little eager.

I am going to come up at some point today, we are back for good. If Megan hasn't filled you in I will. Hopefully you will be around and I can meet Ava and give you a big hug!

Glad to hear you got some good rest, it is extremely important you getit when you can!

Love and Prayers!!!

Beka said...

I see how this would bring comfort. But God does not give sickness to anyone. He loves us and wants us to have health. III John:2. What you need to hold onto is what life brings you to God will help you through. The Devil is the God of this world all illness and bad things comes from the Devil not God. This brings me comfort knowing this. And if two believe in something it shall come to pass is another promise given by God Matthew 18:19. I have been spending most my day reading from beginning to end so sorry if I am seeming unknowledgeable of the current situation I am slowly working my way to the current time and have been praying throughout the blog even though its already pass and the hurdles I am reading about have passed, hopefully for the best. My baby has the same as ava we find out how serious the heart is next month and yes turner syndrome is on the back burner for now. I plan to start a blog for this baby as soon as I know more so I can be more informative of the situation we are against. Thank you for having your blog it is helping me know what to expect with what I am told I will face. God bless you and I hope this turns out for the best I will continue reading and post a comment as soon as I reach the current situation. again thank you for sharing your experience it is prepairing me for what maybe in store for me and my unborn baby girl.