Thursday, May 8, 2008

To All Of Our Family and Friends...

Nate and I thank you so much for your love, support, prayers and comforting words. We are in the process of making arrangements for Ava's service. We will be meeting with the funeral home director tomorrow morning, but we were told that Monday will work. So we are shooting for Monday. I will post tomorrow the time, date and location.

We again, thank you for everything. We have been touched by an angel and it makes us happy to know that you have been as well.


Isabella said...

I am making arrangements so hopefully I will be able to come. Love you guys.
Love and Prayers Always

Anonymous said...

Hi Amy and Nate,
I wanted to send you my heartfelt condolences.I have never commented before but I have been a loyal reader since Ava's arrival. I am originally from Seneca and I knew Nate when he was little boy. His Aunt Carolyn and I were best friends in high school and we spent a lot of time with Pamela at their house. I am also good friends with Jen Osterhaus's family. I want to thank you for letting me in your lives through your blog. Please know that there are many many people praying for you and thinking of you in your time of sorrow. Ava was a beautiful baby and blessed to have you as her parents. God bless.
Cheryl Evans Sherman
Peru, NE

Anonymous said...

You do not know me but I came to your blog site from a caringbridge site.I want to tell you how truly sorry I am for all of you. Even knowing she is in a better place does not help erase the pain you feel right now. My four month old was very sick and in the PICU in Des Moines in Feb. I am praying for all of you!

Kacey Bode said...

We are praying for your family and so very sorry for your loss.

Michelle said...

You don't know me, but I was directed here from Rhett's site ... and I wanted to offer my most heartfelt condolences on the loss of your sweet, beautiful Ava. I, too, have lost a child ... 3 years ago my daughter passed away when she was 13 days old. I know that there are no words to ease your pain or wake you from this nightmare. Sometimes it helps just a bit, though, to know that you are not alone ... that others have walked a similar path ... and have, somehow, some way, made it through. Your precious Ava was so incredibly lucky to spend her short time on this earth in such an amazingly loving family.

When and if you are ever ready and desire the online support of others who have lost an infant, please check out Share at They will send you information regarding resources and, if you click on the "message boards" tab on the upper right-hand side of the main site page, you will find a loving, warm community of bereaved parents more than willing and able to hold your hand on this journey of grief.

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this excruciating time.

Michelle, Carina Hope's Mom

The Rice Family said...

Hey Nate, Amy and Kaden

I have been procrastinating posting this comment because of the lack of words and the anger and sorrow I have been feeling. When you all informed us of the heart troubles that they saw in the sonograms, all Andi and I could think of and talk about was where was the justification in this. You two are truely an inspiration to the rest of us. We consider ourselves privalged to count you as some of our dearest friends. Please know that we are truely inspired by the Love and Affection you show for each other and for your kids. You are two of the best parents I have ever had the privelage of meeting. Know that our hearts continue to break and the our thoughts our continuously with you all. Give Kaden our hugs, kisses and HIGH FIVES. We will see you all on Monday. Let us know if we can be of any assistance during these trying times.

With Love,

The Rices

Anonymous said...

You do not know me, I came across your site from a caring bridge site I read daily. I am so sorry for your loss, you were truly blessed with an angel. Ava was a beautiful baby.

Mary B. said...

Nate and Amy,
I haven't stopped crying yet, and I feel like I never will. I miss Ava so much, and I miss you both as well. I am thinking of you constantly. My heart is completely broken for you. I would love to talk to you, anytime, whenever you feel like it, about anything.

Anonymous said...

Amy, Nate, Kaden
I am so sorry for the loss of sweet baby Ava. My heart truly goes out to your family and will be in my prayers!

Lindsay Dean

Pam said...

Still thinking of you. Yesterday afternoon as I was driving home from one of Rhett's Dr.'s appointments, I had a very strong feeling that I needed to read your blog.

Then our internet was down, and today I am just wishing I could come and be with you guys.

I am so sorry. I know that doesn't help any. I still have the gift for Ava that I never sent. I will get it in the mail tomorrow. I know you will want it for a keepsake for her.

Love you guys.....

Pam and Rhett

Anonymous said...

Amy & Nate -
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I stopped in after finding your blog link on Jaxons CB site. My son was born with HLHS, Hypoplastic Left Heart. He just recently went through his 3rd open heart surgery, he is almost 2 1/2 years old. Our family will pray for yours as you moarn. We will Lift you Up in Prayer.
Christy - Ashcer's Mommy

Kyle, Aimee & Ava said...

Although I do not know you, my heart breaks for you and your family at this time. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Ava was a beautiful little angel!

Michelle said...

You don't me, I heard of you through Rhett's site. I just wanted you to know that I am so sorry for your loss and am praying for your family.


Anonymous said...

Amy & Nate,

I am so sorry to hear about baby Ava. I have heard so much about you and your family from my sister, Diane Haverkamp, and have kept you in prayers since Kaden was born. I pray that you can find comfort in Ava's memory.

God bless you!

Amy Hutto, Winfield, KS

Elizabeth said...

Dear Nate, Amy and Kaden,
I came by way of Rhett's Journey and I just had to add my condolences. I tracked back and read from Ava's birth. She is a beautiful little girl, she always will be. God Bless you all.
Pax Christi, EJT

Debbie said...

Amy, Nate, and Kaden,
My heart is so sad. Please know that you are being held close in my heart and being lifted up constantly in prayer.
Debbie (RMH)

~plaid said...

I don't know much about your story, but I understand a little of your sorrows. I don't have any words of comfort, really. If you'd like ideas of how Kaden might be able to be involved with Ava's services, we have had the experience of burying two of our own children. And both times we have had an older sibling about Kaden's age. So I guess we've kind of learned some ideas of things to do, but not sure if you even need any suggestions. At the same time, you're likely too weak to even really respond to this even if you're interested. I'll just give you a couple of ideas, and you can contact me if you ever do feel up to it. I have an "outlet" blog for this journey in grief that you can find if you click on my username.

Some ideas for Kaden:
You can find a little stuffed animal or toy that he can give to Ava and let him give it hugs/kisses and then either he can give it to her if you are having him see her at the services, or you can give it to her for him, or put it at the cemetery or with an urn (not sure what your feelings will be on this, so not suggesting one way or the other).

We found it helpful for our kids to have something from their sibling(s) as well. So maybe one of her blankets or something that Kaden can get "Ava Hugs" from when he thinks of her. Sometimes you can take a blanket and have it turned into a little bear.

There's a couple of ideas. At his age, he's likely not going to be as cognitive of it all, but over the years he will begin to ask different questions and such. Right now he's likely going to just feel more vulnerable to changes and so he's likely going to want as much reassurance from you that you're there for him and not going to leave him. It's such a hard thing because at the same time you're just really out of energy and unable to really concentrate and focus.

I'm really sorry. I hope I'm not intruding here. I want to offer something, but I know there's really not much I can do. Ava is beautiful. I have to believe that this is only a separation that we will have to endure through our lifetimes, and then we will have a sweet reunion. But it is a very hard thing to miss them. :( I'm sorry.

Love, Marie (aka ~plaid)

Ashlea said...

Paul and I are making arrangements for Caden, and we are hoping to be able to make it on Monday. We are still thinking and praying for you all. Ava was such a beautiful baby girl, and she was lucky to have you two as her parents. (And Kaden as a big brother)

Karen H said...

I am sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter, Ava... you all are in my prayers.

Tyler Patrick Breuer said...

Continually praying as your family deals with this great loss. Just think how many other HLHS kiddos Ava is looking out after now. She'll be an angel to many!
Love to all,

Anonymous said...

Although we have never met, my heart is breaking for you, tears are flowing today. May God Bless your entire family during this awful time. Thank you for sharing your daughter with us. Bridget Robertson, mom to Jack (HLHS) & Will (HH)

Tammy Lister said...

Hi Amy and Nate,
I was introduced to you guys through Angel Gabi's mom, Mikah. I lost my 3 month old daughter Brenlee on Jan 7th of this year. The pain you're feeling is so intense, and I'm so sorry. The strength of your daughter will give you the strength you need, to keep going. You have the most beautiful angel to watch over you, until you see her again. My heart, thoughts, and prayers are with you right now. If you need to talk, my ear is always open.
Tammy Lister

Anonymous said...

Prayers and hugs being sent. I am visiting from Rhett's blog.

Anonymous said...

Amy, NAte and Kaden
I am so sorry for the loss of your beautiful angel baby Ava. My heart goes out to your family, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Lindsay Dean

Anonymous said...

It seems that God works in mysterious ways. My heart goes out to all of you at this time. You don't know me, but I have family in that area, and you are all in my thoughts and prayers. May you find the strength to continue on and always remember what a joy Ava brought to your life. You have a very beautiful family. God must have known he could count on you two to take care of two very beautiful children.