Well, today was a very long day. Lucky for us, Nate was able to get off of work this morning to go to the appt. The doctor's appt went alright. Kaden had fun for part of it because he was able to play!! The behavoiral specialist wanted to see how he interacts, and for the most part he acted the same as if he were at home (which was kind of a surprise to me). She did diagnois him as autistic. Nate and I had some thoughts about this before hand. Since I work with some children with autism or aspbergers (along with many other mental health issues) I have started noticing some similarities between Kaden and some of the kids I see. The specialist did say that if she had to guess Kaden would be able to function mentally on average or above average of peers of the same age group. To me it sounded as though his biggest downfall as of now is socially. There are so many reasons to this, really too many for me to list right now. Don't get me wrong, he is very sweet natured and loves attention but when it comes to peers of his age he doesn't really make an effort or seem to feel the need to interact with them. Luckily this has been caught early which should be easier for us to work with him. It was important for us as parents to know whether or not austism (or what have you) was part of our lives. Knowing this will now help Nate and I as parents do things with Kaden in a different way if need be. We have a lot of learning to do. If anybody knows anything or anyone we can talk to we would appreciate all of the advice we can get. I am blessed to be working in an enviroment where I should be able to talk to someone who knows a lot about autism. That is my plan for tomorrow!! This has not changed how we feel about Kaden in any means. He is one special little boy who has captured the hearts of so many. Nate and I are so totally in love with him there is nothing that would or could ever change that.
March 31st is Congenital Diaphragmatic Hernia Awareness Day. Please wear turquoise this day for Kaden and all of the other's who have been diagnoised with this birth defect.
Jan. 31, 2008 to May 7, 2008 You are in our hearts and will be forever. We love you baby girl and miss you so much.
Our Big Boy
We love you bubby.
While we try to teach our children about life, our children teach us what life is all about. (author unknown)
Special Angel In Heaven
There's a special Angel in Heaven that is a part of me. It is not where I wanted her but where God wanted her to be.
She was here but just a moment like a night time shooting star. And though she is in Heaven she isn't very far.
She touched the heart of many like only an Angel can do. I would've held her every minute if the end I only knew.
So I send this special message to the Heaven up above. Please take care of my Angel and send her all my love. -Author unknown
A WALK TO REMEMBER
I walk to remember the steps you'll never take. I carry you with me as I firmly plant my feet. Our trek started long ago, before my belly swelled. You were a love that grew-like butterfly wings that beat. Your gentle flutters than became kicks upon which I would dwell. And I would talk to you, sweet babe, about the world you soon would meet. The sun always shown upon us then-when you were in my womb. And I was eager to show you the world that would have been your home. How you'd have loved the sun shining-blue skies without a cloud. The autumn leaves turning-the snow falling all around. The flowers in the summer,would have filled your eyes with smiles. And the rain that might have fallen would have caused you great surprise. You would have traveled far with me-holding me by the hand. And I'd have shown you all I could-more than I can imagine. You hold my heart tightly now, as thought we're holding hands. How far we've traveled, little one-and my life with you has been sweet. For I carry you in my heart as I firmly plant my feet.
I have four wonderful, beautiful children. Three are here on earth with us, the other received her wings and is now in Heaven watching over us. I take pride in my children, they are the strongest people I have ever met. I have been blessed to be a part of their lives. I am TRULY grateful that God chose my husband and I to love these children. I have never known a greater love than a mommy's love.
THE CHOSEN ONES I had a dream the other night. It came to me so clear. I stood before the throne of God,afraid to come too near. God said to me, "I hear your prayers. There are answers you can't find. I brought you here to talk to me and help to ease your mind. "I said,"Well, yes, God, I am upset...About my special one. This punishment is awfully harsh...Whatever have I done?" God looked at me and shook his head, He said, "My Dear, you've got it wrong. I sent this special child to you because you are so strong. I searched and searched to try and find someone with a love so rare. Parents so unselfish they could give him that special care. I try to save my special gifts,like those you're speaking of,for a special kind of parents I call the 'Chosen Ones. 'Of all the ones to choose from,I know I've got it done...Parents who deserve my best,an honor you have won." -Unknown